An astounding 92% of people fail to achieve their goals. But here’s the good news—you don’t have to be part of that statistic. With the right tools and a fresh approach, you can position yourself among the 8% who not only set goals but also see them through. It’s not as far out of reach as it might feel. So, let’s talk about how to set goals so your business thrives this year.
Why Traditional Goal-Setting Fails
It’s goal-setting season, and everywhere you look, people are dreaming big and planning for success. But if you’re a busy mom or military spouse, you know that traditional goal-setting methods often don’t work for our beautifully unpredictable lives.
Think about it—how many times have you set exciting goals at the start of the year, only to watch them slip away when life gets messy? Kids get sick, schedules shift, deployments happen, and suddenly, those rigid plans feel impossible.
The problem isn’t you. It’s the process.
Traditional goal-setting comes with rules like:
- Set big, ambitious goals.
- Stick to the plan, no matter what.
- Push through with no excuses.
This approach assumes life is predictable, but let’s be real—it’s not. When your life is filled with constant changes and responsibilities, you need a more flexible and realistic system.
Mastering Your Mindset
Your mindset is the foundation that holds your goals together. A growth-oriented mindset helps you stay adaptable, motivated, and confident, no matter what comes your way.
Here’s how to strengthen your mindset:
Adopt a Progress Over Perfection Attitude
Perfection often stands in the way of progress. Instead of aiming for perfection, celebrate each small step forward. Embrace the idea that imperfection is part of growth. This isn’t just a cliché—it’s a strategy. Start practicing by recognizing your wins, no matter how small.
Cultivate Self-Compassion
When plans change or you miss a target, be kind to yourself. Self-compassion isn’t about excuses; it’s about recognizing that you’re human and giving yourself permission to keep moving forward without guilt.
Challenge Limiting Beliefs
Notice the thoughts that come up when you set goals. Do you hear things like, “I’ll never have enough time,” or, “I’m not good enough for this”? Replace these beliefs with empowering ones like, “I can create small pockets of time,” or, “I’ve faced challenges before and succeeded—I can do it again.”
Reframe Challenges as Opportunities
When setbacks happen, ask, “What can this teach me?” Maybe your timeline was too aggressive, or perhaps your priorities shifted. Challenges aren’t failures—they’re opportunities to refine your approach.
Visualize Small Steps of Success
Instead of focusing solely on the big picture, visualize what success looks like this week or even today. Small, tangible goals keep you motivated and make progress feel achievable.
Celebrate Every Win
No accomplishment is too small to acknowledge. Whether it’s folding the laundry or taking the first step toward your business goal, celebrating these moments reinforces your belief in your ability to succeed.
How to Get Started with Flexible Goal-Setting
Ready to try a more adaptable approach to goal-setting? Here are three steps to get started:
- Choose 1–3 Priorities for the Next Few Months
Focus on what truly matters most in this season of your life. - Break Down Priorities into Actionable Steps
Ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today or this week to move closer to my goal? - Find an Accountability Partner
Whether it’s a friend, coach, or community of supportive military spouses, having someone to check in with makes all the difference.
Why This Year Will Be Different
This year, ditch the pressure of traditional goals and try something new. By focusing on progress, flexibility, and mindset, you’ll not only set meaningful goals but also create a system that fits your life—and your dreams.
Are you ready to create a plan that works for you? Share your 2025 goals with me or check out my coaching programs, where I help military spouses set goals that align with their lives and priorities.
My website https://www.heatherjonescoaching.com/
Here’s to a year of progress, grace, and thriving. Let’s make 2025 your best year yet!